It all starts with one simple question: why?
Why do I get out of bed each morning?
Why do I do what I am currently doing, for better or for worse?
Why am I here?
Clearly, these questions are centuries old; nothing new here. But, how often do you ask yourself these questions? How often do you take a moment to reflect on your life? Many people don’t do this because they fear the answers they might find. They fear that they will find out they haven’t lived up to their desires, and that they will have to live with the despair this knowledge brings. This is the farthest thing from the truth I have ever encountered. Reflection is always a positive experience; you lose absolutely nothing and gain everything through the act of reflecting on your previous decisions. Reflection is one of the most powerful tools you have to use to dig deep down and assess your life’s progress.
Best of all, you have to reflect on your life if you are ever going to find out your purpose on this Earth.
Reflection will guide you to your passion – that thing that ignites a fire in your soul that cannot be extinguished even by the great tidal waves of anxiety, fear, doubt, and insecurity.
Here are the nine questions to help you get started in your reflection to finding your passion:
1. How do I want each day to unfold?
2. What would I like to be focusing my energy and attention on, if I had any choice available to me?
3. What makes me experience joy?
4. What energizes me?
5. What makes me feel balance and integration?
6. What state of mind would I like to be in while I work?
7. What other aspects of my life do I wish to be paying more attention to?
8. By the end of my life, what kind of person do I wish to be?
9. If I knew I could not fail, what would I like to do with my life?
I recommend starting with whatever question strikes you the most. For me, questions one and nine were very salient, so I started with those (and I continue to tackle them). It is important for you to understand that these questions cannot and will not be answered in a single sitting. Take your time with these so that they become deeply ingrained in your mind. Write them down and review them when you wake up and before you go to bed.
You will be pleasantly surprised at what amazing ideas come into your head when you answer these questions.
A word of caution: You will have ideas and visions of doing something you love, and immediately you might feel the ping of anxiety and think, “but I can never make money doing that” or “but people will think I am an idiot and lazy for not doing what they expect of me”. These thoughts are entirely normal because, unfortunately, we have been conditioned to do that which others expect of us, not what we want to do for ourselves (that’s been labeled “selfish” or “egotistical”). Well be selfish, dammit. In the end, you will give back to the world ten times that which people who meet others’ expectations can give.
Reflect on your life with the questions above, and feel wholeheartedly each passion that flows through your mind. The next step is removing doubt and indecision through action, which I will cover this in the following post.